Chapter 2: The Tripod Principle
Chapter 2: The Tripod Principle
Later that evening, after Thabo had emailed the admissions office, he returned home with the tuition and accommodation quotes in hand. He found his father in the living room, poring over financial documents, deep in thought.
“Dad, I got the numbers. Tuition is R30,000 per year, and accommodation at the university residence is around R5,000 per month.”
Duncan: “So, that brings our total to… let’s see.” He quickly scribbled the figures on a notepad. “With everything else—food, data, transport—we're looking at about R11320 a month. That’s a hefty investment.”
“Yeah, it’s a lot to think about. It feels like we’re putting a lot on the line here.”
Duncan: “It is. But this is part of our obligation as parents. We owe it to you to provide the best opportunities possible, even if it means making sacrifices.”
Thabo nodded, taking a moment to absorb his father’s words. Then, inspired by a thought, he added, “You know, I’ve been thinking about this idea of support. It reminds me of a tripod.”
Duncan: “A tripod? Go on.”
“Each leg of the tripod represents different aspects of life—education, emotional support, and financial stability. As parents, you choose which leg to support. But sometimes, without knowing what I’m cooking or what type of flour I’m using, it’s hard to know which leg needs the most support.”
Duncan: “That makes sense. If you just throw bricks at one leg without understanding, you risk tipping the whole thing over.”
“Exactly! If I’m trying to balance everything, and one leg is too weak, it’ll spill the pot. So, it’s crucial to ask me what I need. Support without that information might just make things worse.”
Duncan: “That’s a profound way to look at it, son. As parents, we sometimes act based on what we think is best, but you’re right; we need to communicate more. It’s not just about providing resources; it’s about understanding what will truly help you succeed.”
“And the obligations aren’t just one-sided. We as children have responsibilities too. We didn’t choose to come here. It’s on us to make the most of the opportunities you’re providing, to honor your sacrifices.”
Duncan: “True. It’s a partnership, really. We owe each other—parents owe to provide and children owe to strive. It’s a cycle that feeds into itself.”
As their conversation deepened, the bond between father and son grew stronger, both realizing the importance of mutual understanding and support.
“I appreciate everything you and Mom are doing for me. I promise to make the most of this opportunity.”
Duncan: “And we’ll make sure to be there to support you in the right ways. Let’s finish going through everything with your mom; she should be part of this conversation.”
Thabo felt a sense of relief and gratitude as they prepared to discuss the next steps together as a family.